Karyl McBride, Ph.D., is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with more than twenty-five years' experience in public and private practice. For the past seventeen years, Dr. McBride has been involved in private research concerning children of narcissistic parents. She lives in Denver, Colorado.
Verdict: This readable book fulfills the stated aim of avoiding blame while providing explanations and tools for change. However, the focus on mothers as poor parenting figures can certainly be challenged. Provocative though not definitive; recommended for psychology and mental health collections where it may be useful for self-help and encouragement. Background: About 1.5 million American women exhibit narcissistic personality disorder according to the American Psychiatric Association, and their daughters suffer, too. Grounded in a traditional psychological perspective in which mothers are considered the root of dysfunction, the author provides a guide to halting this insidious form of mental abuse and neglect. The work is based on her experience as a licensed marriage and family therapist, along with personal experience and published materials. The book begins with a clinical description of maternal narcissism, including case studies and checklists. Part 2 analyzes its impact on daughters' lives. McBride describes pathological love relationships, self-sabotage, high achievement based on workaholism, and unskilled parenting as legacies of the disorder. The final section includes a program for recovery and additional resources.--Antoinette Brinkman, M.L.S., Evansville, IN Copyright 2008 Reed Business Information.
"Will I Ever Be Good Enough? illuminates a very common and
unnamed wound -- the wound that results from growing up with a
narcissistic mother. In this engaging book, Karyl McBride provides
a clear, honest, and effective way to heal this wound and live life
fully and joyfully." -- Christiane Northrup, M.D., author of
Mother-Daughter Wisdom, The Wisdom of Menopause, and Women's
Bodies, Women's Wisdom
"Dr. Karyl McBride has convened a fellowship of female voices to describe every flavor of experience with maternal narcissism. However marginalized from the mainstream of mother-daughter relationships you may have felt before this, you are no longer alone on the road to recovery." -- Sandy Hotchkiss, Psy.D., L.C.S.W., author of Why Is It Always About You?
"Narcissistic mothers are always there when they need you. They expect to be the center of attention, and they can be cruel if they don't get what they want. Learning how to set boundaries with narcissistic mothers is a complex challenge. Dr. McBride offers a step-by-step approach to understanding narcissism, setting limits on the abuse, and recovering from the psychological damage. This book is a must read for every woman living in the shadow of a domineering, self-focused parent." -- Nanette Gartrell, M.D., author of My Answer Is NO...If That's Okay with You
"The long-term destructive consequences that narcissistic parents have for their children are well known. Until now, however, there has been little in the way of helpful advice for those who were raised by these parents. In this insightful new book, Dr. McBride presents a detailed examination of narcissistic mothers and the harmful effects on their daughters. She also offers practical, step-by-step guidance for working through these issues. This book is a terrific resource for those women raised by narcissistic mothers and looking for strategies for change." -- W. Keith Campbell, Ph.D., author of When You Love a Man Who Loves Himself
"Will I Ever Be Good Enough? is an amazing journey out of pain. Providing true professional guidance and clarity, Dr. Karyl McBride heaps in genuine love and kindness. This book is like having an ideal therapist at your convenience, who really helps you heal self-doubt and self-rejection. Every page is milk and honey to your soul." -- Tama J. Kieves, author of This Time I Dance! Creating the Work You Love (How One Harvard Lawyer Left It All to Have It All!)