Dedication. Foreword by Tony Attwood. Author's Note. Introduction. 1. Remembering When 2. The Gap Widens and Wondering Why 3. Losing My Way 4. A Slow Walk Home 5. Crossing the Bridge 6. Rocking My Babies 7. Settling In, But Never Down. 8. Pretending a Little Less. Appendices: I Explaining Who You Are to Those Who Care. II Survival Skills for AS College Students. III Employment Options and Responsibilities. IV Organizing Your Home Life. V Coping Strategies for Sensory Integration Dysfunction. VI Thoughts for Non-AS Support People. VII Support Groups and Other Helpful Resources. Glossary. References.
Expanded 15th anniversary edition
Liane Holliday Willey is a wife, mother, autism consultant, academic researcher, avid horsewoman and owner of an equestrian barn. She has a Doctorate of Education, and is a frequent guest speaker as well as the author of several other books on autism spectrum conditions.
Some of the best insights that helped came from reading books
written by people on the spectrum. Liane Holliday Willey's insights
will be especially helpful for many women on the spectrum. --
Temple Grandin, Author of The Autistic Brain and Thinking in
Liane's original book Pretending to be Normal gave such important insights into how women with Asperger's syndrome used coping strategies in an attempt to fit into the neurotypical world. This updated version not only gives further insights but more importantly rather than "pretending to be normal" Liane points out that it is better to recognise that having Asperger's syndrome is acceptable and society should celebrate differentness. Finding the balance with appropriate support enables people with Asperger's syndrome to function in both the Aspie and neurotypical worlds. The appendices are brilliant in that Liane gives practical tips in supporting and managing Asperger's syndrome in all aspects of life. This book will be highly recommended by me to all those who have or do not have a diagnosis of Asperger's syndrome. -- Dr Judith Gould, Consultant Clinical Psychologist and Director of the NAS Lorna Wing Centre for Autism
With Pretending to be Normal, a collective sigh of relief was heaved, a burden was lifted and laid down. The puzzle that had perplexed us was given a name, Asperger's, and women on the spectrum found their voice, some of us for the first time. -- Rudy Simone, author of Aspergirls, 22 Things a Woman Must Know If She Loves a Man with Asperger's Syndrome and 22 Things a Woman with Asperger's Syndrome Wants Her Partner to Know
Pretending to be Normal was one of the first books I read about women and Asperger syndrome. It was then and still is the book I always recommend to the female clients I see. Liane is a star, her determination, strength and courage are a shining light within the AS community. This second edition is full of new insights and information. A must read for anyone who wishes to understand more about the complex world of women and Asperger syndrome. -- Maxine Aston MSc, Consultant, Trainer and Author of several books on Asperger syndrome and relationships
Willey's classic Pretending to Be Normal has been a most eloquent way to understand what it feels like to have Asperger's. As beautifully written as it is insightful, this expanded edition is even more powerful due to the addition of a multitude of helpful suggestions and resources. -- Martin L. Kutscher, MD, author of Kids in the Syndrome Mix of ADHD, LD, Autism Spectrum, Anxiety, Tourette's and More: The One Stop Guide for Parents, Teachers and Other Professionals and ADHD: Living without Brakes