1. So, what's this book all about?
2. What's wrong with me?
3. Understanding your brain
4. Big emotions and relationships: Loving so much it hurts
5. Bottle, bottle, bang!
6. Getting the basics right: Feeling OK in your body
8. Riding your emotions
9. Coping in a crisis
10. Being a wise owl
11. Understanding the minds of others
12. Saying no, and being assertive
13. Getting extra help
14. Self-care plan
A straightforward guide to understanding your intense emotions and relationships, and improving them using psychological techniques
Kim S. Golding CBE, BSc, MSc, D. Clin. Psy. AFBPsS is a clinical psychologist who works in Worcestershire, England where she was influential in the founding of the Integrated Service for Looked After Children - a multi-agency, holistic service providing support for foster, adoptive and residential parents, schools and the range of professionals supporting children growing up in care or in adoptive families. Kim was trained and mentored by Dan Hughes in the use of Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy (DDP). She is on the board of the Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy Institute supporting the use of DDP in Europe, USA and Canada. She accredits and trains professionals in the approach in the UK and has been invited to speak about this work internationally.
The perfect book for any young person who no longer wants to be
controlled by their feelings. Perfectly pitched, superbly practical
with just the right amount of science and info to help you
understand what to do and, crucially, why. -- Dr Pooky
This book is absolutely brilliant. The authors took a library full of therapy books and distilled their essence into a book all 14-year olds and almost every therapist will be able to understand. It is crystal clear, wide ranging, and always helpful. For the first time I have a book that I can with absolute confidence recommend to all young people I see who are persistently distressed by their intense emotions. The lively text will help the reader through the darkest moments and the copious practical advice is magically written to provide support in a highly collaborative and never in a patronizing way. This book deserves to win many prizes but, if there is one for the bursting the balloon of psychotherapeutic pretension, it is the uncontested winner." -- Professor Peter Fonagy OBE FMedSci FBA FAcSS, Chief Executive, Anna Freud National Centre for Children & Families
This is an excellent book for young people, who want to understand themselves and their emotions better. This easy to read, self-help book if full of excellent insights and practical suggestions to help manage emotions and improve friendships and relationships. The book draws on the latest research evidence which is translated into straightforward, pragmatic suggestions and advice, suitable for young people and their parents and carers. Written by experts with clinical and lived experience, the book takes an integrative approach to bring together ideas from CBT, DBT and mentalization-based approaches. It is also an excellent resource for any practitioner working with young people in school mental health support teams, child and adolescent mental health services, and social care settings. -- Dr Duncan Law Consultant Clinical Psychologist, AFBPsS, EuroPsy, Honorary Associate Professor at University College London (UCL) Faculty of Brain Science
My Intense Emotions Handbook is a brilliant resource to help young people (aged 14-25) understand and make sense of intense emotional experiences. The authors dismiss many unhelpful myths around mental health diagnosis and instead have found a way to describe and address difficult experiences to aid self-understanding. They draw on psychological theories and use evidence based techniques to give young people the formula to understand their experience, normalise their feelings and quieten the voice inside their heads that can say "what's wrong with me?". Ideas are presented in a digestible manner, with the author's signature tone of empathy and understanding. It is wonderfully reassuring and hopeful in showing that emotions are there to help in all sorts of ways and managing them is a skill that can be learned. By reflecting on past experiences and looking after relationships, difficult patches in life can pass. In that decade of life when all young people are trying to make sense of their experience and when emotions are intense, this should be essential reading. -- Dr Bettina Hohnen, Clinical Psychologist and author of The Incredible Teenage Brain