John Gray Ph.D. is recognised as a leading authority on communication and relationships and his techniques have helped to enrich the lives of millions of men and women worldwide. He is a psychologist, writer and lecturer and worldwide best-selling author who has been conducting seminars in major cities for over twenty years. He lives in northern California with his wife Bonnie and their three children.
Psychotherapist Gray ( What You Feel You Can Heal ) adds to the growing number of self-help books that assess marital and relationship problems in terms of distinct and pervasive gender differences. Unfortunately, his overuse of gimmicky, often silly analogies and metaphors makes his otherwise down-to-earth guide hard to take seriously. Here Martians (men) play Mr. Fix-It while Venusians (women) run the Home-Improvement Committee; when upset, Martians ``go to their caves'' (to sort things out alone) while Venusians ``go to the well'' (for emotional cleansing). While graphically illustrative, the hyperbolic, overextended comparisons, particularly in the chapters that refer to men as rubber bands and women as waves, significantly detract from Gray's realistic insights. (June)
Couples counselor Gray addresses the topic of male-female relationships with humor, insight, and understanding. Author of What You Feel , You Can Heal (Heart Pub., 1989), he offers practical advice on understanding the opposite sex and achieving satisfactory relationships. He argues that we must accept the fact that men and women have different values, communication styles, and intimate needs, then offers practical tips on avoiding painful arguments, asking for support, and communicating during difficult times. His ``Venusian/Martian'' phrase dictionary lists statements made by men and women and the ways in which they are often misinterpreted. Written in a light tone that keeps the reader's interest, this is a very helpful source for couples trying to keep love alive. Recommended for self-help and therapy collections.-- Demetria A. Harvin, ``Hospital Medicine,'' New York
"Devoted readers praise Mr. Gray as the saviour of their marriages and his book as the brick that finally knocks some sense into their mates" Washington Times
"When I was 21 and freshly dumped by Harry, my first really grown-up boyfriend, where did I turn but John Gray's Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus? It was reassuring to know the reason I'd been dumped wasn't because I was rubbish in bed" New Woman
"Men Are From Mars and Women Are From Venus has shed light on countless relationship problems, offering an explanation for many social inequalities...a hot topic of debate in households and offices throughout the world" Eastern Daily Press