An essential resource for anyone in a relationship with a partner who has Asperger's.
Cindy Ariel is a Philadelphia psychologist with over twenty years of experience working with individuals and couples, many of whom have Asperger's syndrome. In 1992, she cofounded Alternative Choices, an independent group psychology practice that specializes in helping families with special needs. Ariel coedited the book Voices from the Spectrum.
"Cindy N. Ariel gets it like few people do. With a vision that
is steeped in both research and experience, she is able to guide us
through the trials, confusion, and treasure of loving someone with
Asperger's syndrome. She does this with open eyes and an open,
compassionate heart. This is the kind of guide I wish for everyone
who loves someone who is different."
--Daniel Gottlieb, PhD, psychologist, family therapist, and author of Letters to Sam and The Wisdom of Sam
"Loving Someone with Asperger's Syndrome is a practical
and helpful must-have guide for couples as well as therapists! This
easy-to-read book includes lots of AS-friendly exercises based on
the learning style of individuals with AS. These tools provide
concrete activities that can assist couples in working through
issues that commonly occur when one partner has Asperger's."
--Diane Adreon, EdD, associate director of the University of Miami Center for Autism and coauthor of Asperger Syndrome and Adolescence
"Kudos to Cindy N. Ariel! While her new book, Loving Someone
with Asperger's Syndrome, will be widely used by partners, its
potential for use by professionals who are therapists and
counselors is remarkable. The exercises help each of the two
parties conceptualize what the other is thinking in a blameless,
constructive manner so as to support change and adaptation. I fully
plan to use this book in my university teaching programs for
upcoming social workers."
--Dena L. Gassner, LMSW, owner/director of the Center for Understanding in Nashville, TN, and contributing author to Scholars with Autism
"An informative and practical book that couples will enjoy
reading to achieve greater mutual understanding and acquire
strategies to enhance their relationship. This book will encourage
realistic hope for the future and help partners rediscover and
reinforce the deep love that can be felt for someone with
--Tony Attwood, PhD, author of The Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome
"Discovering Asperger's syndrome is a true adventure. But
intimate relationships can be complex. Partners most often must
learn to reflect, adapt, and compromise for the relationship to
succeed. Accepting each partner's differences and reaching mutual
understanding can be a long journey. In her book, Ariel truly
captures the essence and uniqueness of an Asperger's-neurotypical
relationship. With her explanations, examples, and exercises, she
guides couples toward better communication, quality time, and
intimacy. This book will inspire couples to attain a better
--Isabelle H nault, MA, PhD, sexologist, psychologist, and author of Asperger's Syndrome and Sexuality