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Hold On to Your Kids


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Gordon Neufeld, Ph.D, is a Vancouver-based clinical psychologist, internationally renowned as a foremost authority on child development. His Neufeld Institute delivers many courses he has created for parents, educators, and helping professionals on several continents. He is recognized for his unique ability to unlock the clues to seemingly complex problems of child rearing and education.

Gabor Mate, M.D., is a physician and the bestselling author of When the Body Says No, Scattered Minds, and In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts. A sought-after authority on stress, mind-body health, ADHD, parenting, and addictions, he travels extensively, addressing health personnel, teachers, and lay audiences across North America and internationally.


Clinical psychologist Neufeld and health clinic physician Mat? (When the Body Says No) offer readers much more than simple platitudes in this excellent book. The problem: today's kids are more peer- than parent-oriented and are not manageable or teachable. Furthermore, the unconditional love and acceptance they crave is completely absent from their peer relationships. According to the authors, parents need to take the lead in reestablishing the cherished connection they once had with their children as infants. They suggest seven principles of natural discipline, directives that include staying attached; keeping connected; never using separation techniques, anger, or impulses to "punish" the child; and never focusing on a child's behavior, no matter how horrible it may be. All the nagging, time outs, reward charts, and tough love commonly prescribed to parents should be replaced with the process of "collecting," or reengaging with, their children. This book, much like Patricia Hersch's A Tribe Apart, maintains that peer attachment, or "tribalization," is leading to a society no one wants-where teen depression, bullying, aggression, and suicide are almost commonplace, too many children are capable yet completely unmotivated, and high schools resemble prisons. Highly recommended.-Linda Beck, Indian Valley P.L., Telford, PA Copyright 2005 Reed Business Information.

"Hold on to Your Kids blows in from Canada like a Blue Northern, bringing us genuinely new ideas and fresh perspectives on parenting. The authors integrate psychology, anthropology, neurology and their own personal and professional experiences as they examine the 'context' of parenting today. This is a worthy book with practical implications for mom and dad."
-Dr. Mary Pipher, author of Reviving Ophelia and The Shelter of Each Other

"Hold on to Your Kids is visionary book that goes beyond the usual explanations to illuminate a crisis of unrecognized proportions. The authors show us how we are losing contact with our children and how this loss undermines their development and threatens the very fabric of sociey. Most importantly they offer, through concrete examples and clear suggestions, practical help for parents to fulfill their instinctual roles. A brilliant and well written book, one to be taken seriously, very seriously."
-Peter A. Levine Ph.D., International teacher and author of the best selling books: Waking the Tiger, Healing Trauma and It Won't Hurt Forever, Guiding Your Child through Trauma

"The thoughts and perspectives presented by the authors are informative - even inspirational - for those who choose to dedicate their lives and energy to students."
-Bulletin of the National Association of Secondary School Principals

"With original insights on parent-child attachments and how parents can restore them, this is a book for revitalizing families and rekindling the song in their children's hearts."
-Raffi, children's troubadour, founder of Child Honoring Society Institute

"With simple ideas and steps, this book is directed not only to parents, but to all those - educators, social workers, counselors - whose lives and work bring them into contact with children."
-Quill & Quire

"Though this is Neufeld's personal theory, Mate (Scattered Minds, When the Body Says No) has expressed his colleague's ideas in precise and hard-hitting prose that makes complex ideas accessible without dumbing them down. The result is a book that grabs hard, with the potential to hit many parents where they live."
-The Edmonton Journal

"[M]ay serve as a loud wake-up call for mothers and fathers....this one offers what many of the others do not - that rare commodity known as common sense."
-Winnipeg Free Press

"With the benefit of 30 years of research and experience, Neufeld has crafted a coherent, compelling theory of child development that will cause an immediate frisson of recognition and acceptance in its readers. His approach has the power to change, if not save, the lives of our children."
-National Post

"The authors present doable strategies to help parents help their kids. If their advice is taken to heart, there's hope there will be more warmth and security all round."
-The Georgia Straight

Praise for Scattered Minds by Gabor Mate, M.D.
"Rare and refreshing. . . . Here you will find family stories, an accessible description of brain development and sound information. You will also find hope."
-The Globe and Mail

"An utterly sensible and deeply moving book written for a general audience."
-The Vancouver Sun

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