Contents
Foreword by Peter Block ix
Preface xvii
Introduction: How to Work with People You Don’t Agree with or Like
or Trust 1
1: Collaboration Is Becoming More
Necessary and More Difficult
5
“I could never work with those people!” 5
The enemyfying syndrome 7
The central challenge of collaboration 9
2: Collaboration Is Not the Only Option 11
The way forward is unclear 12
“The miraculous option is that we work things
through together”
12
There are three alternatives to collaboration 15
Collaboration must be a choice 18
3: Conventional, Constricted Collaboration
Is Becoming Obsolete 25
Constriction prevents movement 25
Change management assumes control 26
“There is only one right answer” 29
The limitations of conventional collaboration 31
4: Unconventional, Stretch Collaboration
Is Becoming
Essential 39 Stretching creates flexibility and discomfort 39
How to end a civil war 41
Stretch collaboration abandons the illusion of control 46
5: The First Stretch Is to Embrace
Conflict and Connection
49
Dialogue is not enough 49
There is more than one whole 55
Every holon has two drives 59
Alternate power and love 61
6: The Second Stretch Is to Experiment
Way A Way Forward
69
We cannot control the future, but we can influence it 69
We are crossing the river by feeling for stones 75
Creativity requires negative capability 80
Listen for possibility rather than for certainty 82
7: The Third Stretch Is to Step into the Game 89
“They need to change!” 90
If you’re not part of the problem, you can’t be
part of the
solution 93
Be a pig rather than a chicken 96
Conclusion: How to Learn to Stretch 99
Notes 109
Acknowledgments 115
Index 118
About the Author 126
About Reos Partners 128
A Note from the Artist, Jeff Barnum 130
Adam Kahane is a director of Reos Partners, an international social enterprise that helps people move forward together on their most important and intractable issues.
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