Kara Hoppe, MA, MFT, is a mother, psychotherapist, teacher, artist, and storyteller. She has spent more than a decade working with individuals and couples toward healing and growing, and toward becoming grounded, integrated people with better access to their own instincts, wisdom, and creativity. Hoppe currently sees clients in private practice in Pasadena, CA. You can learn more about her at karahoppe.com. Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a clinician, teacher, and developer of a Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT). He has a clinical practice in Calabasas, CA, where he has specialized for the last twenty years in working with couples and individuals who wish to be in relationships. He and his wife, Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin, PhD, developed the PACT Institute for the purpose of training other psychotherapists to use this method in their clinical work.
"Baby Bomb is a wise, entertaining, and compassionate
relationship survival guide for new and expectant parents....
Emphasizing communication, mutual respect, and teamwork, Baby Bomb
demonstrates that effective parenting begins with effective
partnering. This engaging, insightful guide will be
transformational reading for new and expectant parents."
--Foreword Review-- "Foreword Reviews"
"Baby Bomb is a gift for young couples. The principles of attachment theory and nervous system regulation are the basic elements of 'Parenting 101.' And Kara's fresh voice of experience explaining how to apply those principles is the bow on top."
--Diane Poole Heller, PhD, creator of the Dynamic Attachment Re-Patterning experience (DARe), president of Trauma Solutions, and author of Healing Your Attachment Wounds and The Power of Attachment--Diane Poole Heller, PhD
"'The couple comes first.' Strange how radical these words seem, but also how right. Baby Bomb insists--and gives parents concrete ways to remember--that their health and partnership is never any less important than their baby. This book is a breath of fresh air that helps lighten even the hardest days of early parenting."
--Angela Garbes, author of Like a Mother--Angela Garbes
"After the birth of a baby, the relationship of the parents is often left untended, like a fallow field. Baby Bomb is the guide you need to help return nutrients to the soil of your relationship, plant seeds of new growth, and celebrate the bounty of your relationship for years to come."
--Britta Bushnell, PhD, childbirth and new-parent specialist, and author of Transformed by Birth--Britta Bushnell, PhD
"Buy this book now. Give Baby Bomb to every expectant couple you know. It is an indispensable guide for all new parents and pregnant couples. There is none other like it. It will nourish the couple; teach them how to care for one another, make collaborative decisions, and flourish as a strong team."
--Ellyn Bader, PhD, cofounder The Couples Institute, creator of the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy, and coauthor of Tell Me No Lies--Ellyn Bader, PhD
"I was moved by the powerful insights in this book, which teaches couples how to integrate partnership and parenting. Kara and Stan shift the old paradigm--whereby mothers are the ones primarily responsible for raising a securely attached child--to a new paradigm in which secure-functioning couples do that together, and do so more effectively. Partnering according to these principles gives birth to a vast transformation through which both partners and their child grow. I encourage therapists and doctors to get more than one copy of this book to share with every couple who is expecting."
--Nilufer Devecigil, therapist, and author of Isigin Yolu--Nilufer Devecigil
"The inevitable clash of competing loyalties that come with being a partner, a parent, and yourself can be painful when they're out of balance. With exceptionally incisive insight, Kara and Stan help you map confusing emotional experiences. For thirty-five years, I worked as a psychologist supporting and helping couples through their toughest times. I wish I had this book all along. I'm glad I have it now."
--Peter Pearson, PhD, cofounder The Couples Institute, and coauthor of Tell Me No Lies--Peter Pearson, PhD
"There is a saying that the best thing you can do for your children is to have a great relationship with each other. Baby Bomb is a manual for making that happen. Every parent-to-be should read it, and everyone who is already a parent should read it. Your children will thrive, if you do."
--Harville Hendrix, PhD, and Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD, coauthors of Giving the Love That Heals--Harville Hendrix, PhD, and Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD
"Vivid and emotionally spot-on. Baby Bomb doesn't miss a beat in giving you helpful tools, examples, and dialogue right from the first chapter. This book tackles the pervasive problem of traditional gender roles in parenting, elevates the conversation, and challenges us to think deeper about nurturing our partner relationships after baby comes along."
--Heather Turgeon, psychotherapist, and author of The Happy Sleeper--Heather Turgeon