Table of Contents

Introduction Maggie Turp 1. Avoiding Avoidance: Neglecting Emotional Neglect And Deactivated Relationship Styles Graham Music 2. Not Trying to Avoid the Bridge: Avoidant Attachment From Research to Clinical Practice Andrea Oskis 3. Avoidant People in Relationships: Why Would They Bother? How do Partners Fare? Anne Power 4. Masters in the Art of Defence: Shame and Defences Against Intimacy Linda Cundy

About the Author

Linda Cundy is an attachment-based psychoanalytic psychotherapist and supervisor in private practice in North London. She is also an independent trainer and an author.

Reviews

"These clinically rich and empathic studies of those depending on the cold comforts afforded by dismissing attachment to protect them against the fear of social engagement provide vivid insights into the predicament they face, especially when they find themselves on the threshold of therapy. Engaging the reader with this often hard-to-reach group they offer a valuable theoretical and practical resource for those helping them come out of the cold."Christopher Clulow, PhD, Senior Fellow, the Tavistock Institute of Medical Psychology, London."Although many people inflict horrific cruelty upon their partners, the vast majority cause pain as a result of emotional unavailability, fuelled by avoidant attachment structures. In this superb book, Linda Cundy provides us with four remarkable master classes in the understanding of this often invisible, yet devastating, form of interpersonal interaction. Drawing upon extensive clinical experience and empirical research, the authors offer us a truly comprehensive textbook which will enlighten all of our clinical practices."Professor Brett Kahr, Senior Fellow at Tavistock Relationships, Tavistock Institute of Medical Psychology, London, Senior Clinical Research Fellow at the Centre for Child Mental Health, London, Consultant in Psychology at The Bowlby Centre, Trustee of the Freud Museum London