Will I Ever be Good Enough?
Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers
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|Format: ||Paperback, 243 pages|
|Published In: ||United States, 08 September 2009|
The first book for daughters who have suffered the abuse of selfish, self-involved mothers, Will I Ever Be Good Enough? provides the expert assistance you need in order to overcome this debilitating history and reclaim your life. Drawing on more than two decades of experience as a therapist specializing in women s health and hundreds of interviews with suffering daughters, Dr. Karyl McBride helps you recognize the widespread effects of this emotional abuse and create an individualized program for self-protection, resolution, and complete recovery. Narcissistic mothers teach their daughters that love is not unconditional, that it is given only when they behave in accordance with maternal expectations and whims. As adults, these daughters have difficulty overcoming feelings of inadequacy, disappointment, emotional emptiness, and sadness. They may also have a fear of abandonment that leads them to form unhealthy romantic relationships, as well as a tendency to perfectionism and unrelenting self-criticism or to self-sabotage and frustration. Dr. McBride s step-by-step program will enable you to: (1) Recognize your own experience with maternal narcissism and its effects on all aspects of your life (2) Discover how you have internalized verbal and nonverbal messages from your mother and how these have translated into overachievement or self-sabotage (3) Construct a personalized program to take control of your life and enhance your sense of self, establishing healthy boundaries with your mother and breaking the legacy of abuse Warm and sympathetic, Dr. McBride brings a profound level of authority to Will I Ever Be Good Enough? that encourages and inspires you as it aids your recovery."
About the Author
Karyl McBride, Ph.D., is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with more than twenty-five years experience in public and private practice. For the past seventeen years, Dr. McBride has been involved in private research concerning children of narcissistic parents. She lives in Denver, Colorado."
Verdict: This readable book fulfills the stated aim of avoiding blame while providing explanations and tools for change. However, the focus on mothers as poor parenting figures can certainly be challenged. Provocative though not definitive; recommended for psychology and mental health collections where it may be useful for self-help and encouragement. Background: About 1.5 million American women exhibit narcissistic personality disorder according to the American Psychiatric Association, and their daughters suffer, too. Grounded in a traditional psychological perspective in which mothers are considered the root of dysfunction, the author provides a guide to halting this insidious form of mental abuse and neglect. The work is based on her experience as a licensed marriage and family therapist, along with personal experience and published materials. The book begins with a clinical description of maternal narcissism, including case studies and checklists. Part 2 analyzes its impact on daughters' lives. McBride describes pathological love relationships, self-sabotage, high achievement based on workaholism, and unskilled parenting as legacies of the disorder. The final section includes a program for recovery and additional resources.--Antoinette Brinkman, M.L.S., Evansville, IN Copyright 2008 Reed Business Information.
"Will I Ever Be Good Enough? is an amazing journey out of pain. Providing true professional guidance and clarity, Dr. Karyl McBride heaps in genuine love and kindness. This book is like having an ideal therapist at your convenience, who really helps you heal self-doubt and self-rejection. Every page is milk and honey to your soul." -- Tama J. Kieves, author of This Time I Dance! Creating the Work You Love (How One Harvard Lawyer Left It All to Have It All!)
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