Andrew Smiler, PhD, is a therapist and author residing in Winston-Salem NC. Dr. Smiler holds a PhD in Developmental Psychology from the University of New Hampshire and a Master’s degree in Clinical Psychology from Towson University. Dr. Smiler is the author of “Challenging Casanova: Beyond the stereotype of the promiscuous young male” (Jossey-Bass/Wiley) and co-author, with Chris Kilmartin, of the best-selling Men’s Studies textbook “The Masculine Self” (5th ed.., Sloan publishing). He has authored more than 20 journal articles and book chapters relating to boys, men, sexual development, and identity issues. Dr. Smiler is a regular contributor to the Good Men Project and has also written for The Shriver Report, Role/Reboot, Huffington Post, and Everyday Feminism, among other venues. Dr. Smiler is an associate editor for the journal Psychology of Men and Masculinity. He was president of the Society for the Psychological Study of Men and Masculinity in 2011, and currently serves as the chair of their communications and media committee. Visit Dr. Smiler at www.andrewsmiler.com and follow him on Facebook: @Andrew.IrwinSmiler and Twitter: @AndrewSmiler
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Bronze Medal Winner for Young Adult Nonfiction, 2016 Foreword
INDIES Book Awards
Silver award winner in the Eureka! Children's Nonfiction Awards
2017 National Indie Excellence Award Winner for Young Adult
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"I am so very grateful for this book, for Smiler's frank, measured,
comprehensive discussion of sexuality for boys. I've already shared
it with friends' high-school aged sons and they all give it two big
thumbs up!" —Peggy Orenstein, Author of Cinderella Ate My
Daughter and Girls & Sex: Navigating the Complicated New
Landscape
“Issues of consent, gender roles, stereotypes, and the
often-confusing and little-discussed emotions in boys’ early sexual
experiences add up to a substantive, thorough treatment of the
topic.” —Publisher’s Weekly
“Dating and Sex: A Guide for the 21st Century Teen Boy does a great
job of presenting information about healthy relationships, sex,
consent, puberty, and more in a friendly and fact-based way. Smiler
is a therapist and researcher who specializes in male sexual
development and relationships, and his extensive knowledge of and
experience with his subject are evident throughout.”
—KateLinnea.com
“Even though Dating and Sex: A Guide for the 21st Century Teen Boy
is written especially for young men, it is filled with practical,
invaluable wisdom for readers of all ages and both genders….Highly
recommended, for public and school library collections, and a
‘must-read’ for teenagers everywhere.” —Midwest Book Review
“It's for boys who need answers to questions they don't even know
they have…. Smiler does an excellent job of urging boys to consider
what type of people they are—what makes them tick, what makes them
unique—and reminds them frequently how that will change and evolve
for the rest of their lives." —Chicago Tribune
“Smiler…has written an insightful and engaging work that explores
dating and sex in a nonjudgmental manner…. Overall, this is a
refreshing work that covers a number of pertinent issues (body
image, masturbation, sexual identity, etc.) with sensitivity and
clarity.” —School Library Journal
"Some people think that what it means to be a man is changing. Dr.
Smiler cleverly reminds us that the only thing changing is
society's very narrow definition of a traditional male. This book
helps the cause. It's an eye opener for any parent."—Wendy Walsh,
PhD, Clinical Psychologist and Host, The Dr. Wendy Walsh Show,
iHeartMedia's KFI AM Los Angeles "There is so much misunderstanding
about adolescent male sexuality and about adolescent males, so much
that there is a distance between who boys actually are and who we
think they are. Dating and Sex goes a long way towards
sensitizing the reader to normal adolescent male development
without making it scary or deviant. Parents may wish to read it as
well to better understand the adolescent males in their life. This
is a great resource for psychologists and counselors, too."—Matt
Englar-Carlson, PhD, Professor, Department of Counseling,
California State University, Fullerton"This is a wonderful book! It
should mandatory for all boys (and girls would find it a good
learning experience, too). It's right on target with the things
boys want to know. They can be a tough audience to reach, and if
any book has the chance to do so, this one does."—Joanne Davila,
PhD, Professor and Director of Clinical Training, Department of
Psychology, Stony Brook University"Hey guys! Have you ever had
questions about changes to your body, how to ask someone for a
date, how to decide whether to have sex, or how to be careful and
considerate of your partner if you do have sex? If you answered
"yes" to any of these questions, then this is the book for you.
Written by Dr. Andrew Smiler, a national expert on boys and their
needs, Dating and Sex is a really cool, easy-to-read, and
helpful book that will prepare you for the world of dating from now
through your early adult years."—Mark Kiselica, PhD, Psychologist
and Author, When Boys Become Parents: Adolescent Fatherhood in
America"In a society saturated by either disinformation or
mis(sing) information, it's more than just "refreshing" to finally
have a book that lays it all out for guys. It's imperative. Andrew
Smiler's even-handed, judicious, and down-to-earth book will become
the go-to book for teen guys and those who love them."—Michael
Kimmel, PhD, SUNY Distinguished Professor of Sociology and Gender
Studies, Author, Manhood in America and Guyland: The Perilous
World Where Boys Become Men"Every boy will find himself in the
pages of Andrew Smiler s Dating and Sex: A Guide for the 21st
Century Teen Boy. It speaks honestly to boys in their own language
without ever talking down to them. The content is inclusive of the
wide spectrum of ways teen boys define and experience themselves,
and the illustrations are engaging, clear, and useful. I highly
recommend this book and am delighted to add it to my own classroom
library of resources on healthy sexuality."—Al Vernacchio, MSEd,
Author, For Goodness Sex: Changing the Way We Talk to Teens
About Sexuality, Values, and Health"Dating and Sex is a
modern, very inclusive and deeply thoughtful guide for a wide array
of young guys. Well-organized and accessible without skipping on
depth, this book is a fantastic starter guide for teens who want
something gender-specific. It includes important food for thought
about identity, including masculinity, consent, gender, sexual
orientation and body image, and talks about sex and relationships
in ways that will serve young men and their sexual or romantic
partners as well as their families and greater communities very
well. I'm so glad that some of them will get the benefit of Andrew
Smiler's great smarts, care, sensitivity and kindness."—Heather
Corinna, Founder and Director, Scarleteen
"As they enter the world of puberty, dating, sex, and romance,
teenage boys are often confused or ill informed. Dr. Smiler has
astutely and judiciously anticipated the questions teenage boys
have about becoming young men. Though geared toward boys, this book
will prove critical for their parents and anyone else who cares for
the sexual and romantic wellbeing of teenage boys. Based on Dr.
Smiler's extensive reading of the research literature on sexual and
romantic development during adolescence, this is advice at its
best."—Ritch C. Savin-Williams, PhD, Professor of Developmental
Psychology, Cornell University"What a great contribution to the
psychology of sexual health and relationships literature! Teen boys
will love this book because of its direct, no-nonsense approach,
and parents will embrace it because it contains information that
they may want to discuss with their teenage sons yet may be
uncomfortable talking about. As a psychologist, I would suggest it
to others to use in their practice with their clients and parents
of clients. I actually would like to have a copy for my own
pre-teen sons!"—Linda R. Mona, PhD, Chief Consultant and Director
of Clinical Operations, Inclusivity Clinical Consulting Services
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